“All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.” Isaiah 64:6
When I’m fighting to be right…
- I believe that my knowledge is more important than my relationships.
- I wound all those around me.
- I communicate that pride is more important than humility.
- I let love sit on the sidelines while I puff my chest.
- I justify my anger towards those who I believe are wrong.
- I effectively put distance between myself and those I love.
- I cheat my spouse out of quality time with me.
- I steal relational equity from my family.
- I blow up bridges in seconds that it takes years to build.
- I believe the lie that happiness comes when everyone acknowledges my right-ness.
- I create animosity and fear rather than strength and consensus.
- I topple over the people who are getting in my way.
- I crucify the son of God all over again.
- I sin.
“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” she asks me, through tear-filled eyes. Hurt, pain, anguish… caused by my own fear of being wrong.
I fight it.
Even though, I can’t deny that in the middle of my own striving to be justified, I am unjustifiable.
I see it.
But I can’t change the path I’m on. I’ve already gone down this road trying to preserve my own pride.
“I can’t apologize again.”
When I’m right… I’m really wrong.
Because I allow my own self-righteousness and self-preservation to kick in and I see only…me.
Her pain matters. Their feelings matter. His heart matters.
Running roughshod into an argument, I rail, I defend, I wreak havoc, I lay waste.
And once the tornado comes through, it’s tough to rebuild what you tore down in moments.
And nobody wants to forgive the tornado. Especially after many days of storms.
So how do I rebuild?
How do we move on?
How can I find forgiveness?
Change the way you think.
Change of heart leads to change of mind.
True heart change comes not in knowing the right stuff or being right.
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If you truly want to change, you must truly work out your fear of a world…
where you aren’t always right…
and where you could, in fact, not be in control of those who are around you.
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When I’m right….I’m in control.
Or, at least, I think I am.
When I think I’m in control, then my thinking is selfish.
When I think I’m in control, then my actions are selfish.
When I think I’m in control… then those who are closest to me begin, not to love me… but to fear me.
And when fear is in power… love is squandered, hope is lost, and darkness reigns.
When I’m right… darkness reigns.
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There is a difference between a strong sense of justice and an unholy self-righteousness.
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Unless we are able to differentiate between the two… we will likely fall into a pattern of hypocritical, self-preservation and pride.
Be careful how right you demand yourself to be.
The power of the gospel is not in fighting for your rights…
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This is what carrying a cross looks like.
Laying down your rights…
for the good of those you lead.
“…knowledge puffs up while love builds up…”
Paul, the missionary, to the church in Corinth (1 Corinthians 8:1)