― Dallas Willard
Chugging along, living life, moving forward, never thinking, only reacting, adding debt, piling responsibilities, ever busy, always proud, grasping, manipulating, using, working, sweating, never betting, onward through the waves we go.
Rising, acquiring, succeeding, profiting. Trying, moving, three steps forward, two steps back.
Accepting life as it happens, making the best of bad decisions, trudging through the mess we’ve made, suffering from poor guidance, accepting the bed we’ve made, wondering if there is even hope, is there a way out?
Creditors calling, lenders waiting, failure looming, pressure mounting. house of cards comes tumbling, stress makes fractures, family life suffers, relationships scarring, bitterness growing, life is crumbling.
Pride swallowed…whole. Bankruptcy. Foreclosure. Good Name tarnished. Credit in the tank. Starting over. Failure hits. Insecurities increase. Emotional Instability ensues. Dig yourself out. Hit the reset button.
Scarlet letter on your record. Years of failure follow you wherever you go. No one wants to help you out. You are a liability, they say. No one wants to touch you. Black Plague is better than this. Those who know you have no comfort. Eyes that see you look away.
You failures mark you. People don’t know how to respond. You feel insecure. You feel alone.
A Phoenix rises.
From the ashes, starting over, building a new foundation, learning again, reasonable decisions, working together with your spouse. Restoring the years the locusts have eaten…trusting God to change your “stars”.
- If I’m building a life, it better have a strong faith foundation.
- Realize that you can learn from other people’s mistakes.
- Never sacrifice relationship with your family for a buck.
- Always be honest about where you are financially.
- Listen to wise counsel, and then act on what you learn.
- Save your money and pay cash for everything.
- Your truest friends will be smaller than the count of fingers on your hand.
- Give up to go up, but be careful not to give up the wrong things.
- Push through the discomfort of failure, ignore your critics, do what’s best for your family.
- Don’t make decisions because of how you appear to others, even family… make decisions that give your family a future…even if they are unpopular ones.
I could go on. Financial failure taught me how emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially broken I really am. And it taught me about second chances, grace, restoration, and life on the other side. I learned that rising from the ashes isn’t something that just happens to you… you have to move.
You have to rise.
I would change so much in life if I could… but looking back never got anyone anywhere. Thankfully, we had family that understood and pulled us through..
Keep pushing into the future. That is where your life is.
Create something better.
How well can you relate? Are you suffering through a financial failure? It can be a difficult journey to do alone. Don’t. Find your community of support. Look for the friend you can count on through it all.
And never quit.